It’s really hard to win a woman’s heart. Yes, I agree with you and I can tell you how hard it is.
Imagine you have known a woman for quite long time. You know she is such a lovely woman, beautiful, kind and she really cares of your needs. She always tries to help you, thinks of your needs and would like to fulfil your needs as much as she could.
Wouldn’t you want her love & care? Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone needs love.
But the problem comes when you cannot win her heart so easily.
She loves you. Yes, she would agree with you. Does she want you to love her back? She would love to. But she has her own way to love and you better follow her rules.
Rule #1: She would make sure you live happily.
She always wants you to be happy. She will give you advice of how to live well & safely. How you shouldn’t be friends with bad people, how you should earn your money and how you should live in a good house.
Rule #2: She would make sure you are secure.
Similar to the first rule, yet simply, she doesn’t like you to see the outside world. It doesn’t mean you will be caged or somewhat like that. The outside world is so dangerous, so you better stay inside the house and be safe, she thought. You shouldn’t come home late, you shouldn’t hang out with your friends too often as she wouldn’t know every single friend. You know, whether they are really good friends or not. In other words, she would say ‘Never believe a stranger’, and your friends are her strangers.
Rule #3: She doesn’t like you to speak in foreign language
When you grow up and become an adult, you would think about your own life. You would think of how you should live your life. You choose your own lifestyle, fashion, partner, anything. Yet, she thought you shouldn’t do that. You might not choose it right and you might get into trouble. And she really really dislikes any trouble. Then, she will give you more advice about life (yes, she’s a kind of psychologist). She will tell her own life stories and always remind you on the danger of real life. In other words, she would like you to speak in the same language. She might not favour you when you start speaking in different language. She would think you become a foreigner, and a foreigner means a stranger. Remember rule #2, ‘Never believe a stranger’.
Now you think her rules are simple and easy to follow. But remember, rules are there to be broken.
Against Rule #1: You think you know your own happiness
You are happy if you play around with your friends. You are happy not to eat the vegetables. You are happy to be a volunteer (means you are happy to help people without being paid). Well, she might not agree with you. She might think it is bad when you did not eat vegetables. It is bad for your health and it can even make you die sooner. Or else, she might think it is bad when you don’t get paid any money for any work you do. She thought it is quite stupid when you want to work with no money given.
Against Rule #2: You want to learn from risks
At first, you feel alright when you can stay inside the house all the time. You feel safe and there’s no need to go outside the house. You thought you have got everything inside, so why bother? You said. Then, few moments later, you start getting so bored. You feel empty, while you have done anything inside. You start getting curious of what’s happening outside the house. You look at the windows and you see the roads, the garden and the clouds. It starts raining and the road starts getting wet. Surprisingly, you feel more curious. How does it feel when you get caught on rain? How does it feel when you step on the road and got your feet so wet? But she doesn’t like you to get wet. She doesn’t like you to get sick. At all.
Against Rule #3: You can speak foreign language fluently
After learning from some friends, reading some books and browsing the internet, you become an expert in foreign language. You start speaking in foreign and acting like foreign people. You think you have developed your skill. But she didn’t think so. She thought you have been influenced by those alien (you know, the foreigner). She thought you have been captured by the alien and your brain has been switched with alien’s brain. You have become an alien and she doesn’t like it at all.
Oh well, there is no simple rule for winning woman’s heart. Not even for a woman whom you know from when you start to breathe for the first time in this world.
So when you have some certain rules for ‘How to do that’, feel free to spill the beans.
